A fight with your spouse could be good for health: study
CHICAGO (AFP) -
A good fight with your spouse could be good for the health, a new study has found.
Couples who suppressed their anger have a mortality rate twice as high
as those in which at least one partner stands up for themselves,
according to the study which tracked 192 US couples for 17 years.
"When couples get together, one of their main jobs is reconciliation
about conflict," said lead author Ernest Harburg, an emeritus professor
with the University of Michigan.
"The key matter is, when the conflict happens, how do you resolve it?" he said.
"When you don’t, if you bury your anger, and you brood on it and you
resent the other person or the attacker, and you don’t try to resolve
the problem, then you’re in trouble."
Previous studies have shown that suppressing anger increases
stress-related illnesses like heart disease and high blood pressure.
This study looks at how suppressed anger and the resulting buildup of resentment in a marriage affects overall mortality rates.
It adjusted for age, smoking, weight, blood pressure, bronchial problems, breathing, and cardiovascular risk.
Harburg and his colleagues used a questionnaire to determine how the
spouses responded to behaviour that they perceived as unfair.
Both spouses suppressed their anger in 26 of the couples while at least
one spouse expressed their anger in the remaining 166 couples.
At least one death was recorded in half the couples who suppressed
their anger, whereas only 26 percent of the other couples suffered from
the death of a spouse.
And the anger-supressing couples were nearly five times more likely to both be dead 17 years later, the study found.
Harburg cautioned that the results are still preliminary and do not
constitute a representative sample of current marital relationships.
The study period covers couples interviewed in 1971 and measures survival through 1988.
It was carried out in a small, predominantly white and middle class town in Michigan and most of the women were "housewives" born before the sexual revolution.
An upcoming analysis of survival rates 30 years later will yield more reliable results, Harburg said.
The paper will appear in the January edition of the Journal of Family Communication.
Source: http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20080123/hl_afp/ushealthresearchmarriage
January 23rd, 2008 at 11:21 pm
How i could suppressed my anger, when i’m not yet have a couple… eh??
kekeke
good job bro, thanks fore the info…
KYAAA
January 26th, 2008 at 1:06 am
i disagree with all of it.
i’ve been toughted to suppress my anger and to look for another way to handle marital problems or any problems.
i don’t think, angry is solving any problem..
sukses ya, mas iyan.
January 29th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Well, at least the study above also what happen in my marriage, every fight makes us understand each other, and makes us love each other more…:)
February 9th, 2008 at 4:28 am
you’ve been married? what? for how long? kok nggak telling2!!!
Isteri jangan dimarahi ya mas, yang halus ya. hehehe.
{malah ngajari hehehehe)